Yummie Mummies

Sunday, August 06, 2006

I wanted to thank Mel for the links she posted. I just listened to the Creative Mom Podcast (a first for me... I've never listened to *any* podcasts before!) I happened to be working on it, while doing some calligraphy, and felt that beautifully fitting. I found many of the things she had to say really resonated. The voice of another creative mom, talking in detail about those singularly perfect moments, like knitting on an unexpectedly beautiful day, while watching the children play, felt so uplifting to me.

I've spent a lot of time of late, thinking about expectations. Thinking about what I *really* want, and what pressures and expectations I'm loading onto myself unnecessarily (the I should's) and I think I've come to a few rather freeing conclusions ...though I suppose they may sound ridiculously obvious. It seems to me, that the key to being truly happy is in realizing that, for all the challenges, I *do* have what's really important to me. And the list of things I "should" accomplish mustn't come before that. When I'm really allowing myself The Moment, I find it. That peace that comes from watching Bradon discover something new, or enjoying the singular step of my current creative endeavour (rather than stressing about how much Isn't Done Yet) is really where it's at.

This weekend, I went to a girlfriend's place OVERNIGHT. The boys stayed home, and we sat, watching movies, enjoying each other's company, eating chocolate and popcorn, chatting here and there, but mostly, we allowed ourselves to Just Be. No dishes to fuss over, no pile of laundry to tend to, no toys to pick up. We simply relaxed. Again, I know this seems so terribly intuitive, but it seems such a rare grace. I really am learning to cherish it.

I have also revelled in another toddler milestone this week. Bradon has been making more and more forceful demands, so we've begun to talk about Manners and Asking Nicely.

-"fwweezze" he says pointing to the freezer and tugging my arm
-"You'd like a Freezie. Can you ask nicely?"
-"mah." he says with his enormous blue eyes and a grin to match
-"I know you have Good Manners, but what do you SAY?"
-"Pyyyeeez" this time with the scrunched up face of ultimate cuteness

And so it is, that my wee lad, while learning the customs of courtesy has received perhaps more than I would normally grant him through the sheer power of his adorability!

He'll demand that I sit on the couch not my chair, he'll ask for Daddy's dice, cuz they're still more fun than his own set, he'll have mummy's dinner rather than his. He also, quite fascinatingly has a thing for "Dip It". It really matters not to him whether it's catsup or hummus, or ranch dressing, "Dip It" simply makes whatever he's eating more enticing, and he's begun to demand it with greater frequency.

Just the other day, he had before him quarters of a Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwich, and I had reheated some leftover Dal for myself. Well, wouldn't you know it, mummy's food was where it was at... but this time, not in the "forget this sandwich, I want what you've got" way. This time, he asked for "Dip It". And every last morsel of his PB&J was dunked in Spicy Lentil Goodness and devoured!

So, my mission, for the next while, is to focus on the moments –like these– and hold onto the joy in it.


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